100 (Find You Now)

1. Have blue eyes
2. Be over 6 feet tall - unless your name is Erich Hochstrasser, because then you're perfect just as you are
   
3. Be a baseball fan (or football or hockey -- no New York teams)
   
4. Know Heathcliff without being told
5. Love to cook breakfast and dessert
   
6. Be generous and kind to homeless people
7. Hate rodents as much as I do
8. Tell me when my hair looks silly
9. Have strong hands
10. Walk in the snow. Walk in general
    
11. Take advantage of opportunity; say "no" to very few adventures. Don't repeat them if they weren't wonderful the first time.
    
12. Need a dog in your life -- a big dog, not a little dog
13. Wear plaid
14. Believe in both coincidence and magic
15. Travel
16. Appreciate, even enjoy, my "fifteen year old girl" moments
17. Wear Chucks
18. Don't wear a tie to work
19. Respect my need for you to not watch the Victoria's Secret fashion show
20. Let me trust you without a wedding band
21. Trust me without a wedding band
    
22. Know not to buy me a diamond
23. Know to buy me a dictionary
24. Love children
25. Hate golf
26. Don't be settled with having; have a need to open doors that have never been closed to you for others that have had to break windows to even look inside
    
27. Value independence, both in yourself and in me
28. Love your family
29. Be my Trivial Pursuit partner
30. Don't take yourself seriously or believe you are more important than the moment you exist in
    
31. Read. Don't just say you read. Read.
32. Laugh often, but not without cause
    
33. Never make someone feel stupid or embarrassed
    
34. Laugh at yourself
35. Don't laugh at others
36. Always say "Bless you" when someone sneezes, even a stranger walking behind you on the sidewalk or a train conductor
    
37. Make my brother laugh
38. Introduce me to new music
39. Make me think
40. Fascinate me
41. Confuse me
42. Treat anyone whose job it is to help you not like "help," but like a human being. Understand that mix-ups like lost reservations happen
    
43. Don't value form over function
44. Be of use
45. Understand what "Be of use" means and why it matters
46. Keep an open mind
47. Go puddle jumping with your children (and me)
    
48. Teach your daughter to ice skate
49. Go to your child's plays
50. Be torn between the coldness of mp3 and their convenience over vinyl
51. Appreciate a well turned phrase
52. Wash my dishes for me when my back is turned
    
53. Bring me sunflowers on Van Gogh's birthday
54. Know not to buy me roses
55. Tell me a secret you have never told anyone else
56. Don't try to fix my problems; just be there to hear about them
57. Know that I can re-hang the door or re-grout the bathroom on my own, but do it with me
58. Write me a song, however terrible it is
59. Make me believe I can be better
60. Challenge my assumptions
61. Call me on my lies, my nonsense, my half-assed arguments and devil's advocate "Mary, Mary, quite contrary" moments
62. Aspire to more than mere mediocrity
    
63. Take risks; go sky-diving with me
    
64. Realize how lucky you are just to exist
    
65. Get along with my father
66. Understand that what my grandfathers would have thought of you matters more than what I think of you
67. Teach me something new
68. Let steak, roasted potatoes and green beans be your favorite meal
69. Be kind to your sister above all other girls you might meet
    
70. Don't ever believe in your own superiority, physically, mentally, intellectually, ecumenically, or otherwise
    
71. Love hockey fights
72. Don't be disgusted by boxing
73. Find humor in your flaws and in mine
74. Don't be willing to settle for less than you are capable of becoming
    
75. Never believe we are finished products
    
76. Have convictions
77. Make the world a better place, be it through direct interaction with the world or by providing the world with just a little more beauty
78. Appreciate the importance of beauty in this world
79. Watch Sunday morning PBS with me while reading the travel section from the Boston Globe and eating omelets and bagels
80. Don't be jealous
81. Be a little jealous. (But trust me, too.)
82. Love movies
83. Spend Saturday afternoons at museums of all sorts -- natural history, science, modern art, Renaissance art, etc.
84. Prefer Van Gogh to Monet and night to day
85. Stay up late with me, watch the sun rise and then sleep 'til noon
86. Bring me my hot chocolate
87. Let me listen to you
88. Don't get impatient when I meet strangers on the beach and swap life stories with them until the moon has risen
89. Accept my need to be near the sea
90. Let me teach you something
91. Don't try to understand or change me; just accept me
92. Drive to the beach and watch the full moon rise
93. Climb a mountain. Stay the night. Let me set up the tent.
94. Don't ask me if I need help. I'll ask if I do.
95. Don't need me to fix you; don't need to fix me
    
96. Don't ever act smarter than someone else
    
97. Treat everyone as if they are just as important -- more so, even -- than you
    
98. Engage in ice cream eating contests with me
99. Watch me walk away until you can't see me anymore
100. Don't tell me you love me.